This weekend Jeff and I said goodbye to a long time mentor and friend, after a short, but intense, battle with cancer. She and her husband provided a model of a godly marriage for us, and she left her personal imprint on my life as a wife. How blessed I am to have had “Becky” woven into my life’s story.
I’ll never forget the Monday when I heard a knock on my front door, only to find her standing on the front porch, peering through the lace curtains. “Jul?” she began, “are you okay?” The combination of her knowing gaze, decided tone, and accepting smile let me know there was no use pretending I was okay. I felt relieved that my overwhelmed state had been exposed.
Her insightful eyes hadn’t missed the look on my frazzled face the day before, as I juggled my toddler, an intentional smile painted on my face. Our schedule was out of control, and she saw the evidence written all over my not-so-peaceful face. On the day of my exposure, she told me, “When Jeff is busy, Julie is busy,” meaning my husband’s schedule impacts my schedule. Our load is joint, and the choices we make impact the peace (or lack of it) in our life together. Something had to come off of my planner. Our planner.
In the decades since, I’ve gained hard-won lessons about using my time and managing my schedule so it makes for a healthy marriage. A lot of women fight to keep their schedule under control. A too-full plate has a way of spilling over in a mess onto married life. I’ve found that God’s word is packed with practical wisdom for the use of our time, and prayer is a good place to start to make the most of it.
Download a printable copy of the following 10 Bible Verses to PRAY about my Schedule
10 Bible Verses to PRAY about my Schedule
- Understanding of how quickly my life passes
O LORD, make me know my end and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting I am! (Psalm 39:4)
- Wisdom for how to use the time I have
So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. (Psalm 90:12)
- Careful use of my time based on God’s will
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. (Ephesians 5:15-17)
- Prioritizing my time for what matters most to God
He must increase, but I must decrease. (John 3:30)
- Investment of my days in things that last
Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. (Matthew 6:19-21)
- Guidance from the Lord in my planning
The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps. (Proverbs 16:9)
- Discernment to keep from giving time to idols
And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true; and we are in him who is true, in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life. Little children, keep yourselves from idols. (1 John 5:20-21)
- Freedom to let my Father lead the use of my time
So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God. (Galatians 4:7)
- Diligence to use my time to work hard
A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich. (Proverbs 10:4)
- Effort to labor as if I’m serving for God’s glory
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. (Colossians 3:23-24)