I really want to know what the Next Gen thinks about femininity (say that fast 5 times). It’s been a little over 50 years since Betty Friedan’s Feminine Mystique changed the conversation about being feminine. A lot has changed and is changing. How is the next gen of women thinking? In general, do they want to be feminine? Do they see it as part of God’s design? Do they think it’s part of the past? Do they see the world’s take on being a woman? Will they ever bring scrunchies back?!?!? Just kidding 😉
Brooke is a young woman whose faith is growing, along with her heart to inspire and challenge other women of her generation. I asked her to share some of what the next gen thinks about being feminine. Brooke says, “The battle is strong, for the enemy constantly surrounds us.”
I sat on the big comfy couch at my best friend’s house. The Modern Family marathon came to an end, and a movie was scheduled to play next. A jolt of excitement went through me when I saw the title, “He Is Just Not That Into You.”
“Oh, this is a favorite among people I know. And there are so many famous actors in it! It has to be great, right?”
As the movie progressed, the more offended and disturbed I became. The film not only mocks God’s design for marriage, it also blurs the lines between right and wrong.
The film encourages adultery, sex before marriage, and making men an idol.
The pull to the secular world, the sin lurking all around us IS the norm. Like the film portrays, gratifying the desires of the flesh is a commonplace.
Take Gigi, for example. Her character goes on countless failed first dates, and clearly reveals her unhealthy reliance on a man for her personal satisfaction. She is seen several times pacing near the phone waiting for her date to call her back. As much as I detested this film, I unfortunately related to Gigi.
Dannah Gresh, Christian writer, calls it the “Violent Craving.” This craving was given to us through Eve after the fall. Genesis 3:16 states, “You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” I certainly experienced this pull. The pull to gain a man’s gratification and attention. To place my happiness in him, while pushing Jesus to the sidelines. Quieting the craving takes work.
However, it does not help when the secular world encourages such desperate behavior.
So, if there is one thing I would like your generation to hear, it is this: Sin is only becoming more acceptable.
We all know the divorce rate of today. And according to the newspaper, The Economist, 85% of American population approves pre-marital sex, and only 3% of Americans successfully save sex until after saying I do.
Femininity is evolving. Like Genesis 3 states, a man will rule over us.
What does that look like currently?
- Take a look at the current clothing trends of my generation. Skimpy is the trend.
- Take a look at your daughter’s cellphones. How much are they texting a man? In today’s society, creating an idol out of a man is as simple as carrying your smart phone in your purse.
- Take a look at today’s teen magazines. Hook up tips, and articles teaching young girls to become more desirable to men fill the pages.
The battle is strong, for the enemy constantly surrounds us.
Brooke is a sophomore communications major with a minor in women’s ministry. She enjoys mentoring, blogging, and long nights by the campfire. She hopes to one day live by the beach and travel the world. You can connect with Brooke at her blog Inside the Water.