Mondays are usually Marriage Mondays here on Come Have a Peace, but today we’re talking about how different it is for the next gen to find true love. I asked one of my next gen writers to share what we should know about relationships for young adults today. They’re falling in love in a a world of online dating, casual sex, experiments with courtship, and transgender relationships. Confusing! Hearing the heart of today’s guest reminds me of how much we need to be praying for them, modeling godly love, and supporting their healthy next gen relationships.
Talking about Next Gen Relationships
Our generation has vanquished the conventional definition of a relationship. We have, instead, introduced several new avenues of intimacy. “Friends with benefits,” “an open relationship,” “no strings attached,” and, “we just don’t want to label it.” These nebulous relationships run rampant throughout high school, college, and young adult culture. The media does nothing but glorify them, and they are becoming the norm rather than the exception. Many modern day couples are simply living together to “try it out” and avoid expensive marriage costs and seemingly inevitable divorce.
In a relationship where an easy exit is always present, the boy typically finds himself relatively, if not completely, unscathed. Many girls of today are pressured to “keep it casual” and are left with emotional scars, while they have given a guy exactly what he wanted. These relationships are poison, they are corrosive, and they are destroying the beauty of love.
I speak as a victim of a label-less relationship. Several label-less relationships, if I’m being honest, but one that was particularly painful. To me, he was perfect. We were going to different colleges, so we (he) decided to stay away from any sort of commitment. This way, we would never have to break up or have any sort of responsibility and at the end of the summer we could frolic along to our new lives without any sort of closure. We filled our days with blissful adventures and sappy couple-y goop, and pretended as if we weren’t doomed to be nothing. I gave him all of me, and then he was gone.
“No strings attached” for the next gen
I don’t blame him for all my scars. I knew what I was doing, and I made countless mistakes. I lied to myself because I adored him, and said I was fine with just “keeping it casual.” I was a wreck, and I am still healing. As far as I know, he’s just fine.
It is invaluable for people of all generations to be aware of how dangerous “no strings attached” relationships are, because my story is so common. In Ephesians 5:31 Christ says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” God created marriage for His children to commit. Forever may seem scary, but that’s what God intended.
A label for the next gen
In every romantic connection that we seek, we should be mirroring the relationship our Father has with us. I am so thankful we worship a God who believes in labels! 1 John 3:1 says, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” We belong to God, and He is in it for the long haul!
Today’s next gen writer is Hannah, a 19-year-old happy little girl from Knoxville, Tennessee. She attends Cedarville University and that feels very much like home. She is most content when laughing, watching old movies, reading poetry, exploring the Smokies, cuddling with her dog, wandering through art galleries, or drinking a grande blonde roast from Starbucks.
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