The team of 7 lined up together after a long season of training, competing, and hoping. Air was heavy over the State Competition, and the official warned the athletes not to deflate the energy with a dreaded false start. So eager to begin the anticipated race, the premature start of just one girl would impact them all. My Jo stood behind her teammate, toes on the line, among 100+ runners, mentally planning their course. The gun raised …
They forced their muscles back into submission, sucked in a deep breaths, and paced back to the line to regain control. Tension spiked. Tears fell. Advantage lost. If one takes off too soon, it takes a toll on their potential for success.
Have you sprinted into 2013 before your partner was ready?
It’s no secret that men and women think differently, resolutions included. Some may be personality differences, but many couples echo the difference in pace. In our case, my thoughts (and words) sometimes pour out like rain drops, while Jeff’s drift out more like snow flurries. After 23 years of marriage, I think I’m finally learning what it means to wait for my husband to share his thoughts; man times I’ve made a false start out of impatience. Now a small voice inside my head whispers, “Wait for it … ” Jeff’s more deliberate pace has often kept us from falling into the ditch carved by the spade of my tongue.
Wait for your man
With the great responsibility God puts on a man, it’s not hard to see why he might be cautious to take off … just a little.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5:25-28).
So in your excitement, did you rush ahead with your New Year’s resolutions before your husband was ready? A wife wouldn’t plan a vacation alone, sell a house alone, or change jobs alone. How can we successfully set goals for a new year, without our spouse’s input and support? After all, we’re one.
Don’t let that Cinderella visions keep you from inviting your husband to share his start, in his way, with you. Maybe you’re secretly waiting and hoping and praying that he’ll plan a candlelight dinner to talk about your life’s plan this year, to hear your hopes and dreams, and to keep each other mutually accountable for God’s promptings in your lives. Awesome! A few of us may find that’s our reality, but for others, it’s a Hallmark movie. Don’t let it stop you from waiting on your man to start the year together. If you’re not even sure your husband is going to step up to the line, the ultimate Lover of your soul wants you to call on Him in prayer. He wants you to ask Him to coach you through this.
- So what did you like about last year in our lives?
- Is there some way you want me to help you this year?
- Is there some way I can pray for you this year?
- What could I do that would help your year be a success?
When a wife stands on the starting line of a new year beside her husband and waits with him to begin together, they’re on course for a championship year.
To help you slow down and plan thoughtfully, check out 2new planning for a great year and the first step, Reflection. You can even use these steps with your husband. Why not share this with a girlfriend, so you can encourage each other as your men get in position to lead your homes this year?
Would you share one goal you have as a wife this year?